Planning your wedding

A wedding day can be the most wonderful day of a couple’s life. A day to remember and cherish… but first you must organise the main event, so here are some things to help you - the services of a free bespoke Wedding Planner and a list of things to do.

Things to do as soon as you become engaged

  • Share your good news with close family and friends

  • If both sets of parents are yet to meet, arrange a get together

  • Set a wedding budget

  • Decide what tasks need completing and who is responsible for what

  • Arrange a first meeting with your minister or priest to set a date for your wedding

  • If you are having a civil ceremony, then book the registry office or civil venue 

  • Send ‘Save the date’ notifications with venue details to abroad or out of town guests

  • Make appointments with bridal boutiques

  • Choose your witnesses, bridesmaids and groomsmen.

Wedding Planner

Victoria Manktelow

Have you considered having a

Wedding Planner? My wife Victoria is available to assist with the design, planning and management of your wedding and to help source and manage wedding venues and wedding suppliers.

The services may include:

  • Interview the couple and parents to identify their needs

  • Preparation of the budget

  • Design and style of the event

  • Scouting locations

  • Photoshoots

  • Planning a detailed checklist 

  • Preparation of the list of participants

  • Identification of venues for events (hotels, reception/party, ceremony, church/registry office).

  • Identification and contracting of wedding professionals and service providers (suppliers, photographer, beauticians, florists, sweets, buffet, drinks, etc.) and contract preparation and execution.

  • Coordination of deliveries / services on the wedding day.

  • Have a back-up plan in the event of a disaster.

  • Event layout indicating the location of the dance floor, buffet points, tables, chairs, lounges, etc.

  • Event briefing for all suppliers 

  • Coordinating wedding day and pre-event assembly follow-up

" Over my 27 year career I have organised and planned many events, from small, personal affairs to large corporate events and weddings. Being 50 years of age I also have many life experiences that I can use to add that personal touch to your special day" 

12 months before the big day

  • Announce your engagement to your wider circle of friends and family

  • Optional: have an engagement party

  • Think about the size of of wedding you'd like and draft a guest list 

  • Start looking at venues

  • Think about wedding styles and colours

  • Select your bridal party and groomsmen

  • Send out save the date cards or emails to guests.

10 months before the big day

  • Choose your venue

  • Book your registrar or cleric

  • Book your chosen venue(s) and pay deposits

  • Purchase wedding insurance

  • Consider hiring a wedding planner

  • Set up a personal website to keep your friends up to date about your wedding

  • Book photographer (and videographer)

8 months before the big day

  • Order your wedding dress and accessories

  • Book a wedding caterer, florist, transport, cakemaker and honeymoon

  • Contact rental companies if you need them to hire furniture or linen

6 months before the big day

  • Book accommodation for your wedding night and any rooms needed for out of town guests

  • Buy wedding favours

  • Set up a gift list

  • Order stationery, groom's clothing and rings

  • Give notice of marriage/or arrange for your banns to be read in church and pay any necessary fees

  • Renew or get passports, if you're going on a honeymoon.

4 months before the big day

  • Buy going away outfits if you're having any

  • Buy gifts for each other, your parents and anyone else in the wedding party you'd like to treat

  • Purchase or make your decorations

3 months before the big day

  • Arrange for your initial wedding dress fitting

  • Create a 'shot list' of the must-take photographs and discuss with your photographer

  • Plan the wedding menu with your caterer

  • Post your wedding invitations

  • Select hymns and decide on order of service or choose suitable wedding music or readings.

2 months before the big day

  • Write your wedding vows (if you are writing your own)

1 month before the big day

  • Arrange for someone to take care or your plants, pets or children while on honeymoon

  • Have your final gown fitting and arrange to pick up your wedding dress

  • Check with your suppliers that they know what they're delivering, where they're delivering it to and when it should arrive

  • Write and print an order of service

  • Write thank you cards as your receive wedding gifts

  • Buy a guest book and decide where it will go 

  • Finalise seating plan and write place cards

  • Confirm head count with caterer

  • Wear your wedding shoes on carpets round the house

  • Give your DJ or wedding musician your song list

2 days before

  • Check everyone in the wedding party knows what responsibilities they have (e.g. greeting and seating guests, checking suppliers)

  • Confirm wedding day transport

  • Indulge in a manicure and pedicure

  • Make sure all wedding day items are packed or laid out

On the day

  • Allow plenty of time to get ready

  • Enjoy yourself and relax

After the wedding/honeymoon

  • Send thank you cards

  • Have your wedding dress cleaned and preserved

  • Keep in touch with your photographer and/or videographer as they work on your photographs, album and/or DVD.

  • Arrange to change the surname on your driving licence, with your bank and so on, if necessary.    

Enjoy married life!

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